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Are You Kidding Me?

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The phrase I hate the most when I officiate is when a coach, player or fan yells, “are you kidding me?” No, I am not kidding you. In fact, I am completely serious. I called a penalty and that is the end of the discussion. A coach or person affiliated with a team is likely to say “are you kidding me” at least one time during the regular season. I can almost guarantee it because there is going to come a point when that person just cannot accept a particular call or no call. So they yell out in frustration. I understand their frustration, but I still don’t like the phrase.

That phrase irks me because it implies that I am not taking my job seriously. The person making that comment probably thinks that I just show up, throw on a striped shirt, and make calls whenever I feel like it. That person does not know that I:

  • Read the rulebook multiple times before the season and almost every day during the season
  • Run in the offseason so I can keep up with the players who get faster every year
  • Spend hours in the classroom teaching and being taught the intricacies of officiating lacrosse
  • Buy two new hats and two new flags every season so I look the part of a professional official
  • Take meticulous notes after my games detailing how I felt I did and what I need to work on for my next game
  • Call up my officiating friends and discuss weird rule situations so we all know what to do when something strange happens in our next game
  • Show up an hour early to every one of my games
  • Make calls based on safety and advantage/disadvantage. Nothing more.
  • Do not care who wins or loses
  • Want the game safe and fair

These are some of the things that I do and believe in, which I believe makes me a competent official. Many of my officiating colleagues in this state and across the country do similar things to prepare and be at their very best come game time. We put in hours of work behind the scenes so we can provide a quality product. To everyone who says, “are you kidding me?” I suggest taking an officiating class and stepping onto the field. Every new official that I have ever worked with says the exact same thing – “This is much harder than it looks.” It is hard to do, but the rewards are great if you put in the effort to become as good as you can be.


23 Life Lessons

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Well it is my birthday on the 3rd and after twenty-three years on this Earth I believe a little reflection is in order. Here is a list of twenty-three lessons I have accumulated over the years and tried to follow:

  1. Treat others as you want to be treated
  2. Silence cannot be quoted
  3. Failure is a fact of life
  4. There is a difference between hurt and injured
  5. Nothing is foolproof to a sufficiently talented fool
  6. Humility is highly underrated
  7. Pay attention
  8. Falling down may be hard but getting up is harder
  9. Men should tuck in their shirts
  10. Smile when saying thank-you
  11. Sir and ma’am should be used liberally by anyone under 25
  12. Goals are nice but the journey is far more satisfying
  13. Respect will buy far more than money ever will
  14. When you screw up man up and apologize
  15. Always treat women with honor and respect
  16. Hold the door open even if people don’t thank you
  17. Don’t show up on time, instead show up early
  18. Grunt work is needed in every job so get used to being in the trenches
  19. Embrace the dork inside of you
  20. When you win shut your mouth. When you lose shut your mouth
  21. Ask questions constantly
  22. Read every day
  23. When the s*&#t hits the fan. Step to the side of the fan.

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