“Your child’s success or lack of success in sports does not indicate what kind of parent you are. But having an athlete that is coachable, respectful, a great teammate, mentally tough, resilient and tries their best IS a direct reflection of your parenting.”
Think about this for a moment and read it again.
I read this article recently from Inside Lacrosse ( click on link Your Parenting ). There is a very disturbing trend in coaching, teaching and the challenges of being a parent. This article tends to dwell on the negative. Being the optimist that I am I would like to dwell on the positive of coaching, teaching and parenting. There is no owners manual when it comes to raising children. We all have great aspirations for our children as well as the ones we have the honor to coach or teach. Young people need structure and forms of discipline to help them with the challenges of growing up. Yet many parents don’t allow there children to fail forward.
Over the course of their young life they will encounter good and bad coaches, teachers and authority figures. Knowing this we should do our best to help them with above mentioned quote.
Is your child coachable?
Are they a great teammate?
Are they mentally tough?
Are they resilient?
Do they try their best?
I think back to my Mom & Dad and the lessons they taught me. They all revolve around working hard, being respectful, tough, trying my best and never making excuses or letting my teammates down. These lessons helped me have a successful career as well as being a tough yet understanding coach.
The quote below is from Socrates who died in 399BC:
“The children now love luxury. They have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise.”
Raising, teaching and coaching children was as challenging then as it is now. We just have to keep guiding them and letting them fail forward.
See ya on the field!
Compliments to Inside Lacrosse writer Peter Lasagna for a thought provoking article